Q + N

To get into where we are in life currently, I have to go back from the beginning because everything from the start is so important to our story.

Quentin and I met during my last semester of Freshman year at Nicholls State University. He was doing some service hours at St. Thomas Aquinas, our local catholic church, when I saw him walking the halls and helping out. I quickly befriended Quentin and his friend, Ju. And that is honestly how it all began. As friends. As we got closer, we decided to see where things would lead. I think we both knew very early on that this relationship was something different.

Growing up in my household, my parents truly exemplified what friendship within a marriage was meant to be and what it looked like as well. Having that example growing up has truly shaped my outlook on what it takes to create a healthy marriage. Their marriage taught me that friendship with your spouse is sacrifice for the other. It’s laughing in the kitchen at 6am making breakfast and packing lunches. It’s short kisses as you cross paths through the house while doing chores. It’s love taps while the other is talking with the kids so that you know they see you. I could continue with all of the things that my parents have taught me through their own marriage that I have carried into my own. But, the most important thing is friendship.

Q and I were originally supposed to get married in May of 2020, but due to Covid, ended up pushing back the date to September of 2020. During all of our wedding planning, we were very intentional about not only the wedding aspect but the marriage as well.

We chose every reading, every response and every song with the intention of bringing our guest into prayer with us. Once specific detail that we did, that I would do over and over again every time, is praying to the Holy Family. Traditionally during a Catholic wedding, the couple brings roses to Our Lady and pray to her to bless their family and their marriage. During our ceremony, we chose to have our parents meet us near the statues of the Holy Family. We wanted to invite the Holy Family to watch over us and be with us in the future.

Never in a million years did I think that small decision would come into play 5 years later.